I Am Woman Forum Polyamory

Hi...new to the site and the group and interested in seeing if anyone has any comments on Polyamory..or lives this lifestyle and would like to discuss the relationship dynamics of it.

how many partners are you talking about? i guess is my first thought

See I couldn't be in a polyamorous relationship. I am very much a monogamous person.

But for others whatever. I personally feel it is only fair that every person in the polyamorous can go and find other partners. I had a friend who was after this guy. This guy was deciding between her and his current girlfriend. So he was getting some from both of them and they knew it and they had to share. But if one of them went elsewhere he would have dumped them. To me that is not fair (I know not a perfect example)

But as I was saying as long as everyone is comfortable with the idea of multiple lovers and everyone is free to take on multiple lovers than why the hell not. I couldn't be in one but it is not up to me to tell anyone else what to do.

Kate

I think it'd be fun. Especially if there were kids involved...how great would it be to have 6 loving parents? Of course, I grew up reading Heinlein novels, and his views on the world and relationships have rather colored my own.
Unfortunately I'm a very insecure, selfish and jealous type though. I don't think I could handle it. I can barely share a box of wheat thins much less a man. If there was a way for me to get over those hang-ups I'd be all for it.

What is the attraction to ployamory?

And what do you to keep safe?

How to you handle the emotional side of it (is there one)?


All these perverted guys hit on me and even the so-called nice ones seem to be running a game. I don't know if I could handle one--let alone "poly"! Just having someone to really be a friend would be more than a blessing for me. I have learned to appreciate and value myself--and not just give my time or my affection to just anyone. That's just me...I am interested in hearing more about polyamory though.

Stay Safe!

I'm too jealous for a open relationship...might hurt the girl and him. LOL

I'm not sure about the "poly"I've dated 2 men at the same time and that was confusing for a while (they both had the same name..lucky me...lol) but to have a husband and like 10 other wives that would irritate me to death I'm kind of greedy and have to be the only woman in a mans life and I really don't get along with that many girls either. So it wouldn't be a harmonious endeavor at all. And then treating everyone else’s kid as your own I couldn’t do it. I mean I don’t want to have kids of my own for 1 and second I’d rather adopt but if the parents are already around then they should be able to handle there own kids in there own loving environment. I don’t know maybe I’m just selfish....yea I’m just stingy...sorry

 

~~Theta

As long as everyone knows about it and is alright about it, I don't see the problem.