I Am Woman Forum Solo Sex

Yira Simone	Solo Sex 18 Years Ago Okay ladies, what is you opinion on it? I am asking, do you like to have it or you still a little shy (like me) about using the mighty vibrator? Do you feel comfortable with your guy (or girl) masturbating without you? Come on ladies, I know you got something to say about it, so let's heart it.
Katie B	[no subject] 18 Years Ago I'm completely comfortable with solo sex. Sometimes you just need to let off some steam and don't have someone to have sex with or your partner is not available for one reason or another. Plus hey who can please you better than yourself? I'm not a big fan of vibrators. They just don't feel right to me. Plus you have to get lubrication into it. They do have these vibrators that are specifically meant to stimulate your c**t that are awesome. As far as my man goes. I know and I'm perfectly fine with him and the solo sex. Sometimes I'm not available or in the mood, so he's got to do something. In the scheme of things I rather he'd do it solo to relieve the sexual tension than to find someone else to relieve it for him. Heck I know where to find his porn. Katie
Ivory	[no subject] 18 Years Ago Well I think its so important for a woman to know her body completely in order to experience the best orgasms. So solo sew is a must ! lol I don't feel comfortable using toys, though if my husband suggested it i would never turn him down. LOL I enjoy the feeling of skin to skin contact and I am able to explore differnt things. I wouldn't be upset if my husband did it, but if that was ALL he wanted to do then i would be worried. I rather enjoy solo sex alone and don't allow my husband to watch, but thats just because of my own insecurities ( LOL). I think it could only inhance your sex life with your partner if you guys do it togther ; ) <table cellpadding="4" width="300"><tr><td width="50" valign="top"><a href=""><img src="http://www.writerscafe.org/uploads/stories/tiny/00652500-1188672238.jpg" alt="" border="0" /></a></td><td valign="top"><font size="2"><a href="Touch"><b>Touch</b></a></font><br />A Poem by Ivory<br /></td></tr></table>
autumnsky	[no subject] 18 Years Ago I believe in solo sex for me due to the fact I need it sometimes to relax and relieve stress. Sometimes sex is just physical and not emotional and solo sex is best for that. I think everyone needs to be free to do their own thing and what their comfort level is. It is not meant to replace a mate just enhance what you might already have.
Annelise	[no subject] 18 Years Ago As a virgin, I have to say that it is pretty essential. I mean how can you expect a man to give you an orgasm if you don't know how to give yourself one. I know that I'm going to be 100x more comfortable having sex with my boyfriend since I know how to show him what to do. It's just a healthy thing, and it also blows off steam.
Kim	[no subject] 18 Years Ago Well seeing as I have no man in my life right now.........a girl has to do what a girl has to do! Can't say I really like toys but the waterbator (handheld shower head) is very enoyable " )
Ivory	[no subject] 18 Years Ago Yeah I LOVE my Waterbator too !!! LOL
Julia	[no subject] 18 Years Ago I use to be very shy about actually doing it. I still am hesitant to share that information with the new man in my life. But I have to say, having gone so long with out physical contact from a man, I have learned so much about my own body. Solo sex is definately something not only I control, but I can have it whenever I want. I would much perfer the physical contact of sex with my man but it is just not possible right at the moment. This poem I wrote last night, gives a fairly vivid sense of solo sex. <a href=""><b>self satisfaction</b></a>
Theta S. T.	[no subject] 18 Years Ago Solo sex...uuummmm what to say??? It's interesting, very fun at times, always hit's the spot!!! lol I have yet to by batteries for my "little friend" (his name is Billie by the way...hehe) So I guess I'm not really into toys anymore but the "waterbator" is and has always been a usefull tool more so now that I live with other people. I now have a "friend" who believes that he's all that I need and yea sometimes I stroke his ego and tell him that he hits the spot, but after he falls asleep I have my "me time" I figure that is a lot better then giving him turn by turn instruction on how to please me when we are only "friends" and it's hasn't gotten serious yet....I don't want to scare him off just yet with my demanding ways ~~Theta
Lady Tyke	[no subject] 18 Years Ago going solo is boring, i mean obviously its fun and you get what you want exactly when you want it. and its reliable and well its good to know what you enjoy and stuff but it totally pisses me off that i work myself better than my bloke can! i was a virgin til i was like 18 so to save my sanitiy i got good at self service, but you know what, theres nought better than a guy who knows what he's doing! I've never used any toys, never needed to, always had guys to help!

Nicole (Carpe Diem)	[no subject] 18 Years Ago this is one of those double edged sword topics... i think it is a natural thing to do for either a guy or girl... and lets face it, guys seem to do it a lot... just as long as it is not taking away from the relationship or anything i dont see a problem with it... some couples even do it together...
Brianna Brie	[no subject] 18 Years Ago Since I have a very high sex drive, solo works great for me. Usually, I need sex 2 or 3 times a day, and my husband is more comfortable with a few times a week. Only owned a vibrator once. Hand stimulation works just fine for me. In fact, I use it during intercourse for a blended orgasm. Clitoris and g-spot stimulation offers a much more powerful orgasm. As long as his solo time doesn’t interfere with his willingness to have sex with me it is alright. He doesn’t mind my doing it in front of him, but he would never be comfortable enough himself with me watching him.
Lynn Mariposa	[no subject] 18 Years Ago There was this episode of "Sex and the City" where Samantha was babysitting...it was hilarious! She was babysitting Miranda's son and something happened so the bouncer chair was not working. The baby started to scream and cry. Samantha whips out a vibrator from her bag and puts it in the baby's hand--he couldn't be happier. LOL* Guess he will grow up to be a perfect gentleman.
Nicole (Carpe Diem)	[no subject] 18 Years Ago haha, i loved that episode of sex in the city... it was a back massager that samantha used for um other purposes... haha
Jamie	[no subject] 18 Years Ago I use my vibrators(notice I said vibrators!!) like 3-4 times a week! Now granted I was in a year and half long relationship but he didn't mind it all. In fact he would use it on me and on himself.
Anata	[no subject] 18 Years Ago What an interesting topic :) Nice to read that nowadays women aren't afraid to explore themselves :) I myself am not shy of having solo sex, the only thing is, it feels better when it's not my hand or my vibrator is doing the job.... Me and my boyfriend venture the whole thing, and he knows exactly how to work me :) But i have to agree, sometimes you don't have the opportunity, and then indeed, the waterbrator is very nice :p
Julia	[no subject] 18 Years Ago I was reading through the forum and noticed what I had written on this topic. My relationship with the new man is going well. He has responded well to my toys. He lives a great distance away so we frequently 'solo sex' together on the phone. OMG! I can't tell you what a new dimension this has been to my experiences.
Andrea A. Wentz	[no subject] 18 Years Ago This may be a bit much but we'll see....I have never really understood the concept of TMI so (shrug) Anyway, solo sex is great, nesecary for me atm since I dont have a guy around to help out in that area. I (blushes) use "a back massager for other purposes" lol (well it was cheaper than getting an actual vibrator for that purpose) However, have rules about it. I enjoy solo sex yes, but I never want it to feel better than the real thing so my rule is ONLY clitoral stimulation, nothing gets to gain entrance. That way I'll be really really sensitive when I finally get to have sex again, but I'm still getting some much needed release of sexual tension! So there's my two cents on the subject! :p
Bethany Woody	[no subject] 18 Years Ago Okay so here is my two cents. I know myself better then any guy ever will. I know what I like, what I don't, what will get me the big O faster then anything else and what won't. But the real thing with a loving partner is better then solo sex any day of the week. That is why joining the two can have tons of benifits. Bring your solo friends(aka vibrators, back messagers, d****s, pickles, whatever) into bed with you and your man. Show him how you use them on yourself and then let him give it a try. You get one bonus with visually stimulating your man by letting him watch you play. Then there is the bonus that you get stimulated by your way of doing things and then your man doing things. And when all that stimulation gets to be too much you have your man there to finish the job.
UnderINK	[no subject] 18 Years Ago I do that, and use Fun Factory products. . . their non-insert stimulators are spectacular. As far as my man goes, I don't care if he masturbates. But I am morally against pornography (which he's fine with; he tossed them out a long time ago when I asked him to) so I have to find other ways to keep him interested when he's alone that doesn't involve looking at other women. What about solo sex in front of one another?