Lonely Writers Blog Group Forum good bye

It’s time to leave.

Writer’sCafe has not been useful venue for me

 

Since I joined five weeks ago, I gave 36 reviews; three of them were line-by-line critiques, each taking 3 to 5 hours and sent via e-mail to their authors.

 

I got back a total of four reviews, all of which mentioned personal reactions to the work. None dealt with issues involving the craft of writing.

 

I cannot continue to expend so much energy and time for so little return.

 

I wish you all well,

Surly and Old

Hey, I'm sorry you are so frustrated, but believe me, I understand. I don't always get a ton of reviews, but I've learned that people on here are very nice...if you review for them, they almost always review you. Also, if I get frustrated that I haven't gotten any reviews, I think about how hard it is for me to sit and read sometimes when I usually dont have enough time to write anything myself! Plus with work and everything else, we have to give people slack. Life gets in the way..you know?

I've been frustrated before and wanted to leave this site, but I realize that I have accomplished so much more on this site than I ever would have on my own. Sometimes I get harsh reviews, but after I get over being pissed, it sinks in and I realize maybe I could change something and alas, it only turns out better.

I've met some great people and learned alot. I love this site and I can't ever leave! ;)

Thanks Konsor brothers for creating this site...it's a God send. ;)

Surly and Old, I wish you wouldn't leave....can't you hang in there???

 

Chrissy~~~

Looks like he closed his account already.

Anyone have any thoughts on his parting words?

 

I'm reminded of a line from fight club, where they say self-help groups are better than real life because "people actually listen to you instead of just waiting for their turn to speak."

 

I can't help but agree that sometimes, this place seems more like the latter. I don't mind; after all, obligatory reviews are often just as helpful as voluntary reviews. But I can't blame the guy for feeling differently.

i do agree with him as well, and i might even had been part of the problem. I did intend to critique for him, just everytime i went to do it, something came up, then i never got a chance to get back to him. but i've had too where i've done crits for someone and they never return the favor. i dont know what to tell him. i dont let it frustrate me anymore only because its not worth the stomach ache i get with the frustration.

After my most recent experience this week on a different writing site, I've figured out that the cafe is actually rather pleasant - even if there are people on here who send you a million read requests and then do one review of your work with the old stand by - 'nice form' meaning they didn't even read your work. I get very few negative reviews on here and I give a lot, but don't always get a lot back. Since I've been laid off work for nearly a year, it has given me something to do when there's nothing else pressing. And I don't mind if people take forever to review my work - I just want to share it.

 

But I can also understand everyone's frustration. It's annoying, in my opinion, to see someone expect you to do a million reviews and they don't do any in return. C'mon - everyone can at least do one, can't they?

 

OK, I'm done now.