Our Awakening ~When We

This is not my writing. It's something I found on the internet that spoke volumes to my soul. I thought I'd share

Our Awakenings...

 

When we learn about love and relationships, how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away.

 

When we allow only the hands of a lover who truly loves and respects you to glorify you with his touch.

 

When we learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say, intentionally or unintentionally and that not everyone will always come through

 

When we learn how to say we were wrong and to forgive people for their own human frailties

 

 When we learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture.

 

When we eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify us.

 

When we stop working so hard at smoothing things over and setting our needs aside.

 

When we learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is our right to want or expect certain things.

 

When we learn the importance of communicating our needs with confidence and grace.

 

When we learn that the only cross to bear is the ones we choose to carry and that eventually martyrs are burned at the stake.

 

When we learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to Say NO.

 

When we learn that we don’t know all the answers, it’s not our job to save the world and that sometimes we just need to Let Go.

 

When we learn to look at people as they really are and not as we want them to be

 and we are careful not to project our neediness or insecurities onto a relationship.

 

When we learn that we will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on our arm or the child that bears our name.

 

When we learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and relationships and that that not everyone can always love us the way we would want them to.

 

When we stop appraising our worth by the measure of love we are given...

and suddenly we realize that it’s wrong to demand that someone live their life or sacrifice their dreams just to serve our needs, ease our insecurities, or meet “our” standards and expectations.

 

When we learn that the only love worth giving and receiving is the love that is given freely without conditions or limitations. We learn what it means to love. We stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.

 

When we learn that “alone” does not mean “lonely” and we begin to discover the joy of spending time “with ourselves” and “on ourselves.”

Then we discover the greatest and most fulfilling love we will ever know. Self Love, and so, it comes to pass that through understanding, our heart heals; and now all new things are possible.

 

When we begin to avoid Toxic people and conversations. We stop wasting time and energy rehashing our situation with family and friends.

 

We learn that talk doesn’t change things and that unrequited wishes can only serve to keep you trapped in the past.

 

We stop lamenting over what could or should have been and we make a decision to leave the past behind.

Then we begin to invest our time and energy to affect positive change.

We take a personal inventory of all our strengths and weaknesses and the areas we need to improve in order to move ahead, we set realistic goals and map out a plan of action to see things through.

 

When we learn that life isn’t always fair and we don’t always get what we think we deserve.

 

 We stop personalizing every loss or disappointment.

We learn to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God... but merely a random act of fate.

 

This is WHEN WE awaken to our true, loving selves and start to accomplish what is real, what is truly important and what are lives are supposed to be about.