Weddings! What are they good for?

As with most everything, I take a different view on the wedding. Overtime, the reason for a wedding has changed it's focus.

Firstly and most importantly, the wedding is not about the happy or disillusioned couple. Their desire to commit to each other was decided long before interfering relatives decided to make wedding plans. The wedding is simply a celebration of the union of the happy couple to be performed in front of and with friends and family. In this way they publicly commit to being a  married couple accepting the responsibilities and obligations that go along with that pronouncement.

Unfortunately, society has been rather soft in enforcing that public commitment. In the past you needed a damn good reason for getting divorced and there were other social problems, especially for women pre 1980's. Now it is perfectly acceptable in many circles to get divorced because you didn't sow your wild oats before you got married. This has reduced the wedding to that, that  has no more importance than a teenage weekend party.

When I got married, I invited some two hundred guests. They were coming to celebrate my commitment and my fiance's commitment.  Therefore, I felt it my obligation to provide them with a decent venue and a great meal. Many of these people came from all over the world to be witnesses and as such I made available lodgings for them in the best hotels I could afford.

If I were to divorce would I do that again? Definitely not, because my divorce is again a public notification of my failure to meet my obligation. Would I get married again? Maybe, but that would just be between me and the future Mrs. Dangle.

In conclusion if a couple still feels it is possible to stay together for life and are willing to pronounce that in front of everyone, then let them at least give it a try.

As for wedding dresses, buy what you can afford and reflects your station in life. I've seen some very lovely ladies in lavish gowns as well as sandy loin cloths.

Reviews

[Neva Flores Smith - Cha..]

So well written. Many do not take seriously the vows of marriage. They look at everything as having no permanent stature. Tis sad.