Cheating

Not a story, really a blog. A rant, if you will.

I am really curious as to why so many people these days find it okay to cheat on a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a spouse. And I'm quite curious as to why the cheater is so shoked at the retribution and consequences of their actions. It baffles me.

 

Personally, I've seen a number of guys cheat on their girlfriends. I'm not saying thats all that happens, because it most definitely can be the other way around, but thats just what I've seen. And experienced.

 

I really wish I knew what goes on inside the mind of a guy who is going to cheat on his girlfriend. I would really love to know how they justify these actions to themselves. How do they make it right in their own heads? Because I see nothing that could ever justify that. I don't care if the girl isn't the greatest, or doesn't treat you right. You chose to go out with her. Maybe you should respect that.

 

I find it funny when a guy cheats on the girlfriend, and once the girl finds out, she dumps him right away. (You go girl!) What really makes me laugh is when the guy starts pleading, saying that it was a mistake and that he really loves her, and whatnot. And how the guy is angry that she broke up with him, and gets all bitter because of it. I wonder if they truely cannot see that this is really their fault. Because by the way they act, it seems like they didn't expect this outcome. I'm curious as to what they expected.

 

Maybe they thought that the girl would be all forgiving, and give him a second chance. Maybe they thought that the girl would just look past it, and move on. That's what I did. Boy was I mistaken. I never should've given him a second chance. But I did.

 

My biggest issue with someone cheating is how hurt it really makes the other person. The repercussions on the girlfriend are horrendous. I've gone through the many emotions. I felt worthless, and like I earned no respect. The thing about cheating is that it is all about respect. If you respect a person, then you should never ever cheat on them. And if you feel the temptation is too high for you to resist, then you should break it off with the girlfriend.

 

What also really disgusts me is how they can keep it a secret. I mean, I suppose its understandable that you wouldn't want the world to know, but really? I think that would be terrible to live with. My ex-boyfriend proved that.

 

When he came to me to tell me, he came to me in tears. What a clever b*****d. Because the first thing I did was comfort him, tell him I loved him, consoled him. (This was before he actually told me.) He then looked at me with the saddest eyes I've ever seen, which make me want to just murder whoever did this to him, and he made me promise that I would never leave him. And to console him, I did. Then he told me, in the most innocent voice he could muster, that he had cheated on me.

 

I wanted to punch a wall. I was so devestated. I honestly had no clue, and I wouldn't have ever had a clue if he didn't tell me. I was one of those people who was convinced that it could never ever happen to me. I just sat there and cried. Which for me, was a big deal. I hate crying in front of people. Despise it. Yet I sat there and cried in front of him. I guess that was my way of letting him know how much that truely hurt. I felt so betrayed. But for some strange reason, I didn't walk away right then and there. I should have though.

 

From then on, our relationship was unreparable.

 

I try to live my life without regrets, but I do regret not walking away just then. All the trust in that relationship was gone. You can't have a relationship without trust, and thats what cheating takes away. How can you trust someone who has betrayed you like that?

 

People who cheat disgust me. I don't see how anyone could do that, unless they truely intended no one to ever find out. The unfortunate flaw in that plan, however, is that they always find out. And then you are just worse off than if you had just broken up in the first place.

 

So I guess the real question to all those idiots out there toying with the temptation is:

Is it really worth it?

Because im pretty positive, it isn't.

Author's Note

Ehh. Needed to put this to rest. Read with a critics eye, please.

Reviews

[f**k you]

Nothing to critique. At all. Brilliant and so damn true.

-nicole-was-here-

[Dream Catcher]

I can't really be a critic to this because boy is it truer than anything I've ever read. I agree 101% on this. And it was really relieving to read something like this, I'm glad I'm not the only one that likes to rant about cheating and all the liars out there. I give 5 thumbs up for this, very good.