Emotional Intelligence

A research done on Emotional Intelligence referenced to three psychologists

                In today’s modern world our society has many ways in which we express our thoughts and feelings to one another. We must be able to express and to know when and when not to use our emotions. Through those expressions others must identify, and interpret our emotions. This process is known as Emotional Intelligence as discovered by Professors Peter Salovey, of Yale University, and John D. Mayer, of University of New Hampshire.

                First announced in their article “Emotional Intelligence” in 1990, Salovey and Mayer discuss emotional intelligence and how one comes about achieving it. From their article they define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions. Their idea of emotional intelligence involves being able to not only understand what is being said but also a understanding of how to react, whether it’s with strong emotions or just simply listening to the other. Too not only just be aware about what the others are feeling but also be aware of how you feel. In doing this you could achieve the best understanding of the other person’s feelings and emotions.

                Salovey created a list of five main domains of emotional intelligence in which many, including Daniel Goleman, agree on. First you must be self-aware of your emotions, if you aren’t secure in your emotions it’s possible to get mixed signals from the other person. You must then know how to manage your emotions, so as not to give off inappropriate feelings. Then you’ll have to motivate yourself. This will help you to achieve your goal with less distraction and with greater effort than if you had no motivation.  Recognizing other’s emotions is fourth on his list. When you can recognize the others emotions you’ll have a better understanding of how they are feeling or the message they are trying to convey, whether it’s through non-verbal or verbal communication. Last is handling relationships, or being able to manage emotions of others so that you can have a better understanding of them and their feelings.

                Five years after the release of Mayer’s and Salovey’s article, Daniel Goleman approached the subject of emotional intelligence. After agreeing with Salovey’s five main domains of emotional intelligence he found that rather than five domains, that there should only be four. Self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. Coming to this realization Goleman wrote a book titled “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ”. In the book he defined emotional intelligence as knowing your feelings and using them to make good decisions; managing your feelings well; motivating yourself with zeal and persistence; maintaining hope in the face of frustration; exhibiting empathy and compassion; interacting smoothly; and managing your relationships effectively. He also states that anyone that exhibits qualities of emotional intelligence show the need for impulsive control, high self-esteem, good self-motivation, mood management, and people skills

                Goleman in his book also touches on a “men vs. women” topic. He compares men’s emotional intelligence to women’s emotional intelligence. He states that men are “more socially poised, outgoing and cheerful, not prone to fearless or worried rumination.” In his opinion “women tend to be assertive and express their feelings directly, and to feel positive about themselves; life holds meaning for them. They also manage stress better.”

                Salovey and Mayer discovered that the more aware you are of not only yourself and your feelings, but also be aware of the others around you, the more understanding you can gain from both parties. Goleman would later improve their theories and further our understanding of emotional intelligence by giving us a more detailed understanding of not only a male and female’s role in emotional intelligence but also by restating Salovey’s original ideas on the domains of emotional intelligence . When we are able to express and to know, when and when not to use our emotions, we become emotionally intelligent.

Author's Note

Please watch for what you would consider plagerism.

Reviews

[Erin]

If this is just a "for-fun" research paper, then it's fine. But if it's school-related or professional, then you have a couple comma errors that, while all right in the real world, is frowned upon in the professional world. Introductory material (one that I can think of off the top of my head is the sentence that starts with, "First") is something you should definitely watch for.
As for the quotes and paraphrasing, if any, in your paper, you need to cite it correctly if professional by any terms. If you got the information off of the internet, the author's last name in parantheses after the quote/paraphrase followed by a period (outside of the parantheses) will do the trick. If from a book, the author's last name AND the page number is needed (no comma in between them).
Overall, the paper was actually interesting and flowed well. I liked it a lot. Good job.
PBP

[Cafe Reader]

Interesting thoughts.

[Zachary_James]

Good

[Norma M Sutton]

Tyler there is a website online somewhere . . . can't think of the name off the top of my head, but you should be able to google for it under plagiarism program. What it does is to check what you have written against anything on the web. If you have 3 or more words in succession that are the same as another work it will alert you to plagiarism. I use to do some freelance work for a company that used that site.