validation

as if life wasn’t difficult enough

as if finding a reason to get out of bed in the morning

wasn’t enough of a challenge,

we still look for validation.

 

whether it is a parent, a spouse, a girlfriend or boyfriend,

a brother, a sister, a best friend or any member of the

extended family,

there is a pressure that comes from outside us,

acting as if it had a place in our lives,

as if we needed to prove to others that

we have done something worthwhile

with our time on this big ball of dirt & rock.

 

the truth is that the time spent trying to impress those

that we have given special meaning to ourselves,

we steal away from our own lives moments that we will never

get back---

the time spent climbing a ladder towards some kind of

“success” for the sake of getting a pat on the back or a nod,

or some kind of final realization that all hadn’t been done for

nothing,

drags

us

down.

 

no one needs to be validated or

approved of or stamped on the way in &

checked by the sensor on the way out---

we all live, we all die & if there is any remote possibility that

we can have even an iota of enjoyment

in between,

so be it.