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A non-humorous short piece describing one of the many incidents I experienced in my past. This is an incident which other domestic abuse survivor's should find familiar. When the abuser is displeased

The glass plate flew across the room

Crashing to the floor

Barely missing her head on the way

Spaghetti splattered all over the wall

Broken glass surrounding her bare feet

Two things he did not allow

her to do

Wear shoes in the kitchen

Or to make the pasta sauce too thick

Reviews

[Great Aunt Astri]

I can sympathise. I hope you made him clear it up. But if that was an abusive situation it would probably have made it worse. Well done for writing it.

[gentlekindness]

Oh no, you are right, he screamed at me while he stood hovering over me as I cleaned up the glass with my bare hands.
I have done a lot of study about narcissistic personality disorder and anti social personailty disorder since then. I won't get stuck living with a psychopath again. I've had my share.
Thank you so much for commenting. If you ever want to learn more about abusers and the red flags to spot them early, or have a friend that needs to...my YouTube channel is Annie Mimi Hall life coach.
I can send a link if you ever want on a specific topic or question. I don't want to see anyone else end up in that situation ...or stay longer than they have to thinking the abuser will change. 💙

[Mister T.]

I noticed that you changed the description into 'non-humorous'. That should get some misunderstandings out of the way.
Excuse me for thinking it was meant to be humorous, my bad.

[SleeplessVolcano]

Was he Greek? :)

Great writing.....you managed to write about domestic strife in a humorous way.....something which is quite hard to do well.

[PhoenixDown]

Pieces like this, make me stop and think. Maybe not about the greatest things, but that's not always the point. Actually though, I guess it sort of is. This piece makes not only myself, but others stop and think. Maybe about the bad things at first, but why are we thinking about these horrible instances? - because we don't agree with them - we believe they should be corrected.

Pieces like this make me stop and pause. They may not make me particularly happy, but pieces like this can act as a test. Pieces like this can reveal so much about oneself, merely due to the response our bodies and minds have to such grave realities. I hope karma exists, when justice cannot.

Beautiful job as always.

[gentlekindness]

Thank you. I did not make this situation up. I lived with someone who used to scream at me and throw glass at me, when the dinner was not perfect by his standards.
I find that by writing it out into poetry form, the memory begins to hold less power over me.
Thank you for stopping by. I appreciate your time and feelings.
Annie

[PhoenixDown]

Not to be rude, but I can tell. Honestly, I know writing is supposed to be able to allow us to delve into worlds we may have not personally lived or even can live, but I think with matters such as these, it is almost an insult to write about them if you havent lived through them or witnessed someone close dealing with them - my point being, even though (to me) this doesn't seem at all made up, I assume poems and writings relative to this one are never made up, as to not insult anyone.
And you are right. I do precisely the same thing, and overtime it does begin to hold less and less power. Furthermore, it not only holds less power, but YOU begin to hold any power there is or ever was over it. You are strong and on the right path and it shows. Never fear.

[alifeacoustic]

We often say we hurt the ones we love, without thinking of the stupidity of what those words mean. If you love someone, you don't hurt them at all, and if you ever do, it is with a poorly timed remark or a misunderstood word or action. Not with violence. Other people are not hear to be punished and to learn how to do things their way. They are pure and simply control freaks, who want to change everything but themselves.
Delving into the minds of aggressors and oppressors is for someone else, but what a Pandora's box that must be for them to sort through. You can't teach love with pain and there is no valid excuse for it, ever.
Really like how you address this in your writing. It is plain for all to see, but those who are spoken of within. Great write.

[gentlekindness]

You took time and thought into your review. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.
Thank you and always nice to have you visit here.
Annie

[alifeacoustic]

you're very welcome :)

[Coyote Poetry]

You create bad situation in the description. Never any excuses for violence. A powerful poem. Left the reader with something to think about.
Coyote

[gentlekindness]

recounting something that repeated many times in my past.
Thank you for reading.

[Coyote Poetry]

Some memories cannot be forgotten and you are welcome.

[gentlekindness]

Yes it is true about that. although I have been doing some intensive studying on NLP hypnosis, in relation to dealing with traumatic memories. I have learned techniques for reducing the power and pain of traumatic memories. I am working on adapting what I have learned for specific kinds of trauma.
I have done these kinds of hypnosis on several clients and they tell me it is very good, and they feel better.

I am not yet sure, if one session od sufficient or if people need refresher sessions. I am waiting for feedback from the clients.

I was taught in training that things can be fixed in one session, but the teacher is a bit arrogant as a person, and is very sure he is always right.

He is a very good teacher, but he does have that "I know all" kind of view of himself.

I am more open to thinking things are different for different people. Different levels of trauma, types of trauma, and how long someone has lived with it, make a difference I think

This teacher doea not have PTSD and really is not an expert about that. So that is why I am working on adapting the techniques and learning from the feedback of my clients...rather than going by what that teacher thinks about NLP hypnosis for PTSD

I think it is relatively a new thing, and probably my methods are using the base techniques and concepts of neurology that I learned, but also adding my own way, and I like to connect with people as individuals, rather than thinking one exact thing works with every person the same.

I have begun to try to use the NLP and NLP hypnosis on myself. It is different and trickier to do it with yourself. It is better with someone guiding you. but I do not have that. Maybe I will try to record something and try with the recording.

So that is what I have been studying for many months now. Also a lot of neurology as ir relates to PTSD, trauma and memory.

I really think there are solutions ...

Much love
Annie

[Coyote Poetry]

I carry a lot of dead weight myself. Keep me balanced. I have my father anger problem. I have controlled it and few times had lost control. I hope people can learn to understand the pain given and learn. Never allow the pain again. Always a pleasure to read your words and thoughts.

[gentlekindness]

I understand that you are carrying trauma with you. I have read many of your poems and I can see why you would have PTSD and other trauma anxiety from things in your past. That is why I thought you would want to know about the things I am working on.

I wish you peace and serenity. I know the writing helps you, to a point.

Much love,
Annie

[gentlekindness]

My cell phone died. I only can access online when I am near a WIFI signal. Once I leave here, where I am babysitting, I have no WIFI until I get home.
So I will be going "dark"....off line in a few minutes when the parents of these kids get here and I go.

I will be back online later tonight, when I get home. I am used to being able to access the internet from my cell phone, in my car and when I am out.

it is frustrating. But just so you know, I am leaving here in a few minutes, The Dad is actually late right now. He is usually here by 5:15....Now it is nearly 6 pm. So I expect him to be here any minute.

Any messages you leave I will read when I get home....probably an hour or two. I need to stop for food too.

Much love

[Mister T.]

Little question, don't get me wrong: was this supposed to be a funny/ironic or a sad poem? Because I can see both emotions in this. Just to make sure I do not get it wrong, since it might be kind of awkward if I would.

I actually enjoyed it. Wonderful how you can write a poem around a happening that actually only lasted a few seconds. It felt like a slow motion movie to me. Good job :)

[gentlekindness]

Just recounting a personal experience. Definitely not meant to be funny or sarcastic.
Thank you for reading and taking time to comment
Annie.