Sex and love education for teenage boys and girls.

Do we need to believe in love at first sight, is it the real love, are the persons sincerely loving or is it emotional and harmonal secretions that makes a chemistry, will that chemistry is just fleeting, love without talk, will be a sincere love, and lovers should we rely on them who are coward, love takes life for selfish pleasure will they be called good people, lovers who wait for perents approval and don’t take advantage of others,  are indeed good.

There are so many lovers and young teenage what they have in mind is a matured thought, how a teenage heart thinks??

 

Me in my 45+yrs, a mother to a teenage, and me being in love when in college, faced married life, and found one for soul, want to explain few thoughts that can help the teenage youth.

 

As a teenage in my life, had some kind of male attraction, I would say teenage love or liking. I had my feelings within myself, and never even expressed out and not even thougth them in night or any time, except when I saw them. Those likings are not serious, and was from my side and sometimes few people liked me and I never thought that those boys were loving me even after my first wedding, now when I think of them I feel did they like me and makes me stupid that I don’t know what people thought about me.

 

This is my experience. And I feel my classmates of my age also thought same. Even my son would think same. Boys express and girls suppress in heart thinking parents would get angry as it is wrong we are doing.

 

Love at first sight may not be the love for life, because at that time, it is like where you the beauty or nice things attracts, a girl or boy when like by any obviously starts liking them and brain doesn’t even stop you because your harmonal secretions makes a desire to get liked by more. So we flow with thoughts of them. We call this as infatuation.

When there is a serious thought about the person, you live with her or his thoughts. At that age you don’t think of parents and not even their background rich or poor.

 

When they grow little higher at college level your thoughts get matured thinking parents will not agree and we need to focus on study.

 

When the age makes more matured coming out from a college you think of career and then slowly you will make right decisions for your life, that we need to marry.

 

So teenage love either scares or get drifted by emotional behaviour towards sex. If they secretly meet and touching each other and getting sex is at that tender age makes you behave that you are grown much but few of them even they meet they don’t get sex because you think their estrogen levels are low, and makes them behave better kids to parent.

 

For those who have estrogen levels high, of both male and females makes them towards sex and these people clearly indicates that they just need love sex and not mere love and cant wait for the time and start loving any guy who looks at them and likes them.

 

It is clear love leading to sex is not just love. These people are overmatured even thinking or palnning things and short cuts, and if they feel they want something they will not care for any because at the very young age they cheated their parents without telling them.

 

Continued for chapter on youth love after graduation…………

 

 

Now graduates have got enough experience what makes them happy, to enjoy life, they know necessity of money and people who have money they just get sex with anybody because they don’t care who the person is. And people who are not having money if any rich guy likes them they will not lose that guy because life settles and can live happily with lot of money.

 

There are another group of people who want serious and sincere lover, who stays with them. They don’t look for just love but a man with responsibility that cannot drift away with beauty in women, So they chose the person who is right and innocent and sincere. Once they love they feel to live sincerely because they are not of cheating type who can go with any man, thinking their life, they stick to one person whom they feel as God.

 

There are one more category who just thinks average and didn’t get attracted by any, they just get married to the parents choice and they live happily because they love husband as their life.

 

Usha Jacob