Pure Hearts Don’t Settle

Some people say the right :Soft women have the strongest wings . Maybe softness is something that can handle everything . Suppose you move to another country just at the age of 19 or 20 ,coming from a very conservative and lonely origin . Suddenly, you face what real world is like.It seems quite hard, right? May be in that situation it can be hard for many men also.

Still,challenges are good . Ups and downs make us self-reliant . Hardship is something that encourages us . But at a time we get up ,take stand for ourselves and that is something matter most .

I think every student moves for university at a point of their life . Everyone faces the same issues.

And sometimes situation can turn into hard for the introvert and extrovert in different ways.

Hostel life is something we learn ,we grow. You will get sick ,have a high fever, your blood pressure will drop suddenly and you will feel like you cannot even move. And you dont want to take help from others. You dont want to ask others . You value only genuine bondings . So if people around you donot want to take care and understand you from their heart , there is no point of forming any bond which demands personal help,care and compassion .

Boundary is very important here specially if you want to keep your aura and serenity of your soul elegant. You dont talk to people ,not because you are someone who cannot talk ,maybe that’s just you know the consequences it may bring..

To build up genuine bondings matter most . And it is hard . Our culture is not straightforward. We are bound to sugarcoat things. We wear masks ,create dramas ,hold on to a show off mentality rather than geneuinely sharing . That’s something drain our soul .

Loneliness can be hard sometimes . But in the contrast, it is blessing and in deeper level freedom in many points . It gives us safety,keeps our soul safe from the dirt of this outer world and connects us with core mother nature .

But real problem starts when you do inner soul work, enjoy being in solitude and find happiness with yourself with hobbies ,helping people ,in nature and being super busy with amazing plans in your life .

You will attract jealousy of people. Most people depend on others for inner satisfaction. Most donot enjoy their own company . Most choose wrong company and suffer . And thus you will attract hostility of people just for being in peace.

Some people who are very close may strat pushing you down .Because you are in a culture where girls need validity certificate from the society . The voice from outside will shout and question your validity . People will say you should not live alone ,you need someone . And a concept of marriage will come . An indirect force and manipulation will be imposed on you to get married .

Marriage without preparation ?

marrying someone you dont even know?

Marrying someone because of their position and status?

Does it worth a genuine bonding?

Does it align with spirituality?

I dont know what is the problem with our society . Why they shout like this?

Everyone has a perfect time . If we are not mature enough to take our responsibilities how can we stand beside someone else?

The base of marriage should be love not need . But our society is constructed like that it becomes a need and forced liability which drains people from inside.

Yes we need people to take care of us while we are sick.We need people to handle us while we are stressed or panicked . But we should have genuine bonding which occurs naturally from inside . And every genuine bonding comes at perfect times . It is not a stuff to force. You cannot make a student learn forcing him /her . You cannot make any person fall in love or to take responsibilities or to make connection forcing .

I am learning from many spiritual speakers and philosophies for long term . It just teaches us one thing . Every thing starts from self love . If you are empty within yourself ,you cannot give others . If you are not strong in your two feet , you can not stand beside other .

Reality is you cannot love other till you are not completely in love within yourself . You have to stay full if u want to give others.

But our society is like that ,it will empty us first . It will try to kill self love within us , pull us back . And after that they will force two empty people to stay in a bonding . When two empty people stay in a bonding it causes nothing but a trauma loop.

Maximum people are empty within .That is the biggest reality . We are always seeking what we can take or we are always giving in places which drain us……You can help an empty person to fill himself or herself by his/her own strength .But if you keep feeding an empty person without limit, it is like a black hole where no matter how much stuffs you pour in , it will never become full .

Everyone has an unique DNA . Everyone has a different unique soul . Eneryone has their own karma . Every soul has come to this earth to learn ,grow . Let people learn by themselves ,let people grow first. Dont block the free flow of spirit . Let people shine in their own way and let people get what god destined for them

Cute ,little spirits . Keep moving on . Shut down the voice from people open up the window of devine . Open up voice of your inner soul . Dont settle for dirty world . You are in this world to learn . Be pure . Never settle for impurity. Take care of this body,mind and soul. Be your protector . When you will learn to protect yourself , you will be capable to protect others . Grow ,learn ,shine and never let the world destroy your inner courage to be yourself .